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When Stress Overwhelms Your Mind

When Stress Overwhelms Your Mind Feb2020

When Stress Overwhelms Your mind

Lately, stepping out of one’s comfort zone can cause
a staggering effect on our thought process …

The topic of overwhelming stress has been cropping up in my personal and business feeds quite a lot lately. I had been reflecting on what life was like when I was single in the 90s. I used to travel a lot solo or with work, to various locations around the globe, with confidence and a little bit of angst about the unknown. I would research the places I was about to discover, collating as much information about what I wanted to see and do.

In 1999, whilst based for work in Houston Texas for 3 months, I used my 12 weekends to explore surrounding areas, both near and far, making the most of my limited stay in the US. Grabbing a small bag, I’d drive to various places in Texas, or catch a flight to New Orleans for my 30th, Miami or head to the Mexican border. I had very little fear and almost everything was so much fun!

From 2000 to the beginning of 2003, I was based in the UK. I spent many weekends exploring not only the UK but headed off with my ‘Lonely Planet Europe Book’ to discover different cities on the mainland. Enjoying the history and so much of what Australia didn’t have, I spent time locating long-lost family members who I reconnected with their cousins back in Melbourne! I was often asked, ‘What’s in that city you’re going to visit?’… My reply was, ‘Tell you on Monday when I get back!’ These were the days of city maps, internet cafes and 36mm film in your camera!

It might sound really dumb, but lately, this aspect of planning and booking has become something my husband has done since we got married in 2004. I can’t believe how ‘lost’ I feel, trying to find the right deal, or plan ahead. Whilst I have loads of ideas, I am often overwhelmed by doing it all myself for the family.

As mentioned in the newsletter, I recently went to secretly visit my Uncle for his 90th birthday in Sicily. I was about to book the trip when my husband found a better deal than I would have otherwise missed. But once it was reserved, I suddenly realised that there was no public transport on a Sunday morning, and the panic set in. As stupid as it sounds, the logistics became my stress – and it consumed my mind, thoughts and sleep. Totally crazy, right?

The reality is that often something that seems so silly or insignificant to others is what throws you off your own game. It makes you feel weak, incapable, unsure and questioning your inner strength. Should I accept the role as ‘guest speaker’? What would people think of me at an Exhibition or event that I’ve been asked to attend? How do we overcome these feelings, step out of our comfort zone into our fears and take the ultimate plunge?

Whilst I was having my moment about the trip, I reached out to my Sicilian friend and another connected with Sicily, asking for their advice and help. I felt bad imposing myself on my relatives to take me on the 2+ hour journey back to Palermo airport. I considered driving a car, but again my fear of being alone and behind the wheel in Italy was so consuming that my brain went into overdrive: ‘What if they have snow, what if there’s no snow-tyres on the car, what if I get lost, what if …?’ My husband found a ‘Get Transfer Service’ and booked the trip back on a Sunday morning, and suddenly my fears of being lost, stranded and driving alone all vanished.

” Sometimes we just have to be brave enough to ask for help and admit that we are scared in order to be reassured, encouraged or find an alternative solution.”

I recently spoke to a dear friend of mine who shared this story with me. Lesley was invited to guest speak in the USA to over 400 women. She explained how anxious she became, to the point of not wanting to step onto the plane in the first place. She just wanted to turn around and go back home, but instead, she proceeded. At her UK stopover, the fear came back, and Lesley tried to convince herself that remaining was better than completing the flight to LA, as this apprehension increased. She went and succeeded in delivering her speech to the 400+ women!! This feeling of fear can be also used as a sign that you are ready to move, and as a sign to take action. It becomes your body’s way of telling you to push outside your comfort zone and expand your limit line.

Quoting from Lesley’s Instagram page:
‘When you feel the chaos and overwhelm, know that your next move is still a choice you get to make. The darkness inside is not to be avoided or hated. That within it there is a gift. It is your soul calling you to courage. Through it there is a strength in you that you haven’t even met yet. A desire for greatness that is pulling you through. Breathe. You Will Make it!’

What powerful encouragement – we need to be in tune and listen to our own inner voice and gut instinct. It is usually right and steers us where we should be heading.

Gallery of Products: Nourishing Face Balm & Sicily, Frankincense Face Serum & Sicily; Love Family Reunions, Lesley Calvo Business Coach.

” Trust Yourself, You Know More than You Think You Do.” Lesley Calvo

Lesley mentioned that the concept of stepping out of our comfort zones can make us feel uncomfortable, self-doubt and scared. It can cause hidden feelings from our past to resurface. This overwhelming nervousness can cripple us into non-action, provoking and deceiving us into thinking that ‘we’re ok to stay put or make no alterations to what is necessary for change’.

If we take our health as an example: When we know we are not well, our body will constantly tell us we have pain or discomfort. Instead, we pretend, make excuses, ignore the warning signs that stop us from changing old habits which could eventually have longer-term and detrimental effects. Imagine if we all made small changes that could actually improve and extend our Healthy Life Expectancy? Here are some words of advice:
1. Be honest with yourself and admit you are unable to do certain things on your own;
2. Seek out those who can genuinely help you reach your goals, even if it’s one small step at a time;
3. Be kind enough to give yourself the time and space to reach what you’re capable of doing; and
4. Notice how much stronger, braver and capable you are of becoming.

What other techniques can we apply to help us overcome the stress that consumes our mind? There are a few things we can do to assist the improvement of our overall well-being:
1. Take on a relaxing form of exercise, like Yoga or Pilates. This can help release endorphins in the brain which not only lift our mood but act as natural pain-killers.
2. If you’re able to take on more, do dance-related exercise which will increase your heart rate and improve your overall fitness;
3. Some find meditation and prayer their personal choice for a peaceful mind, as well as dealing with anxiety and stress;
4. For those willing to try Acupuncture, this technique can free blockages to the energy flow in your body;
5. Having regular massage can assist with releasing knots and built-up tension, particularly the neck, shoulders and lower back;
6. Ensure your diet is full of the necessary nutrients, which will help your brain deal with stress, and assist your body’s total functionality;
7. Seek techniques like Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) to help deal with stress and depression that can have a negative effect on your body;
8. Write your thoughts and feelings in a diary to keep track of what is causing stress;
9. Connect with people, friends, nature, taking time out to be around and with those that make you happy;
10. Use your blends and essential oils to improve your overall well-being, reduce the feeling of anxiety and stress on the body.
11. Stress can affect our whole body, from digestion, skin and hair loss too.

Writing lists is something I have been doing for a long time, and I found that it frees my mind from stressing or over-thinking particularly whilst I sleep. Eating healthier and slower, being more conscious of what is consumed can also prevent your body from overworking and becoming sluggish. The food awareness tends to go out the window whilst we’re socialising, travelling and in company with others, enjoying what life and adventures have to offer, though the reconnecting element can be a wonderful key element to overcoming stress.

Pampering yourself with deep tissue massage can release built-up tension and relieve knotted areas. Speaking to friends who know you, offering words of encouragement and support during your time of anxiousness can be a huge step towards a peaceful mind.

Be aware that stress affects our bodies. Our hormones can become imbalanced as the blood flow to our skin, hair, teeth and throughout the body is hindered. A common reaction to stress is Eczema, Acne, Hives, Psoriasis, Rosacea, gum disease and hair loss. Trying to get our body back in control will help overcome this. Often, simply controlling the foods we eat can have a tremendous result for our body’s recovery process.

And for those that enjoy the natural things in life, there are the Essential oil blends I make, that can clear a congested nose and aid with breathing to allow a decent night’s rest. For the children, there’s the Kids Breathe Easy Concentrate, whilst for grown-ups, Adults Breathe Easy Concentrate. For headache sufferers, there’s the Blissful Minds concentrated serum, together with the Anxiety Pick Me Up inhalers. All of these products are made using 100% natural ingredients, containing no hidden nasties or chemicals in the blends.

This year I have decided to do some things differently. I will update you in the coming months, but for now, I’m writing my lists, seeking the help of those who know better than me, asking for advice, and taking one day at a time. I hope that 2020 becomes a different kind of year and that you all get to be part of it, right here! It’s time for me to overcome those fears and just go with it. Watch this space and keep you posted.

Should you need help with finding your feet, don’t ever hesitate to book the Consultation session to fast track your steps to wellness.

Should you wish to contact Lesley Calvo, please message me  support@essentiallylili.com or email her directly on Info@lesleycalvo.com

Gallery of Photos: Healthy Living Chart; Travels to Madrid with the Over 30s Bundle of Products – Cypress Cleansing Balm, Cool Eyes, Frankincense Serum & Nourishing Face Balm; Kids Breathe Easy and Inhaler; Various Inhalers, Blissful Minds & Congestion Serums for Adults/Kids

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  • “About Lili And Why I make
    the Essentially Lili Skincare & Wellness Products”.

    About Lili & Essentially Lili
    My 40 years of personal experience is the foundation of Why and What I do at Essentially Lili.
    My aim is to help you get the results you want as I have already been on that hard journey to overcome the autoimmune disorder. If you wish to know more about Clinical Nutrition and how to kick start your health, book a Private Confidential Paid Consultation.
    Please send an email to info@essentiallylili.com should you need further assistance.

    My Health Studies include from 2016-2019 Diplomas in Aromatherapy, Holistic Skincare Products, Clinical Nutrition, Stress Management, Reflexology, Holistic Pain Management, Member of International College of Holistic Medicine. Currently studying Clinical Nutrition for Over 50s.

    At Essentially Lili, the Products made are all using 100% Natural Ingredients. See the wide variety of Help Skin Assistance available on the webpage.

    Should you need help in deciding, start by reading the Reviews & Testimonials about other Customers who have dared to try them out. We have had some amazing Before & After results with their using the All-Natural Skincare products. Please don’t forget to write your comments and reviews on our pages to share the love with others.

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    Men’s Personal Grooming

    Men's Personal Grooming

    Men’s Personal Grooming

    The trend, whether it’s for their beards and faces
    is a lot more popular.

    Often we assume that only women enjoy looking after & pampering themselves. Though lately, the trend for Men’s personal grooming, whether it’s for their beards and faces is a lot more popular. When I was young, I used to watch my Dad foam his face with the brush and then shave his face, before slapping on Tabac Cologne. My Dad maintained his curly hair short, kept his fingernails filed, trimmed and clean.It was part of his military training as a young man in Italy. For me, this is what men were supposed to do.

    Today, all the additional aspects of Men’s personal grooming is cool and trendy, and shows that a man loves to take care of himself beyond just shaving. Even TV shows like ‘Suits’ shows the character Louis Litt in a Mud Bath as part of his relaxation therapy!!Women love the appearance of a man who is well groomed from hair to feet. Made more popular when the man is fit, healthy and has a matching six-pack like Magic Mike’s team.

    When I began making the skincare products, my husband thought mine was a bit too ‘girly’ for him.Going through my list of Essential Oils and their amazing benefits , I developed the Hydrating Face Balm with its masculine scent which reminded both of us of the aftershave called ‘Aramis’. Sandalwood (Amyris Balsamifera) was included in this men’s over 30’s balm, not only for this wonderful aroma, but because of what it does to the mind and skin. When applied to the face in the form of the Balm & Serum, it can encourages the anti-aging process, promoting new skin cells and the rejuvenation process to continue. The Serum and Men’s Face Balm All-Natural products are offered as a Bundle on our webpage – Mens’ Aftershave Care. The Vitamin Rich Mens Face Balm which also contains Sandalwood, assists those men whose skin is irritated with Acne / Rosacea.

    As mentioned in the Newsletter, there are some amazing benefits with using Sandalwood , which includes:
    • having a calming effect on our well-being and mental health. It can provide a sense of clarity from its therapeutic benefits;
    • It can help boost our memory, particularly if you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed out;
    • Added to massage oil, Sandalwood can increase your libido and energy levels, working as a natural aphrodisiac;
    • It can work as an Astringent, motivating your skin tissues to have minor contractions, which help soothe, calm and tighten the skin;
    • The antioxidants found in Sandalwood can assist with reducing damage caused by free radicals which can cause the early aging process. For this reason, Sandalwood was included to the Mens Range.

    Additional to the Men’s Personal Grooming products for Body & Feet are the Peppermint Feet & Mint Body Butter. Made using Peppermint Essential Oil with its cooling effect, they smell so divine you may be tempted to want to eat it. Not only does the balm hydrate and maintaining the skin, but it also keeps Athlete’s foot, fungal infections and odours at bay. The Mint Body butter has assisted with reduction of scarring whilst hydrating the skin,especially after being out in the sunshine.

    If your hair thinning out concerns you, there are a few options you could do.
    • First, find a natural shampoo and conditioner that contains Biotin, otherwise known as Vitamin B7. This water-soluble vitamin is part of the vitamin B complex, which assists the strengthening process for your hair, nails and skin. It can also be taken internally in a B-complex supplement.
    • Second, Evening Primrose Oil which is rich in essential Omega-6 Fatty acids GLA can also be effective with fighting against hair loss. This can either be consumed in capsule form or the Vegetable oil can be massaged directly to the scalp with essential oils. For more information about Evening Primrose Oil for hair growth, see: Favourite Vegetable Oils in our Blog Library;
    Black Seed Oil has been used by a close friend of mine to encourage hair growth. It can naturally boost the hair and scalp’s health is different ways.It contains nigellone and has antioxidant, antibacterial and anti-inflammatory properties, it can stop dandruff, dryness as well as improve the hair’s overall health simultaneously.
    Rosemary essential oils helps to stimulate hair growth. When applied on the scalp diluted in a Vegetable oil like Evening Primrose & Black Seed Oil, rosemary essential oil helps stimulate hair growth, prevent baldness, slows down the greying process, as well as treating dandruff and dry scalp.

    Your Men’s Personal grooming should include night time cleansing using Cypress Cleansing Balm to help boost your skin’s appearance.In a short space of time, your skin will feel lifted and refreshed. To soften the delicate skin around your eyes, you can use an all-natural balm Cool Eyes with Cucumber Oil, which is hydrating and soothing. And on a weekly basis, enjoy a gentle exfoliant and clay mask.Treat your skin whilst chillaxing on the weekend, to help draw out any impurities and remove dead skin cells. Ensure you get the right Coloured Clays for your skin type.

    Personal fitness and training, with relaxation, yoga and massage is a fabulous way of taking care of your mind, body and spirit. Perhaps look into Osteopath realignment or an amazing Thai Massage.

    In Summary, be the man that isn’t embarrassed to go the extra mile to look your best. Your body, your hair, your skin will all thank you. You will be able to enjoy a youthful appearance well into your mid-life years. Other helpful tips for keeping that gorgeous masculine glow – ensure you don’t use super-hot water on your face, cleanse only at night time, drink plenty of water and keep your face protected from the sun.

    We have had some amazing Before & After results using the All-Natural Skincare products, which have been shared on the Reviews & Testimonials’. Get yourself featured on the Happy Customers at the top of our webpage Testimonials. If you wish to be included, please send me a recent picture of yourself without makeup with your testimonial.

    You can also request to join the various groups I have set up: Essentially Lili Q&A – Taking Care of Your Skin and Essentially Lili Nutrition & Well Being. Here you can ask your questions for conversation and resolution.I share not only what I have studied with the school in London about Nutrition and the Body, but what the other experts write too. You can also check out the previous Blogs regarding the Products, Essential Oils, their Benefits, Managing Stress, Raiding Your Fridge and the funny Pedicure one too.

    If you are looking to fast forward your journey to recovery, you can book a Consult Therapist session. I will help you get the results you want as I have already been on that hard journey; who has endured & persisted; has had high and low moments; who can empathise, sympathise and encourage you along your path. Check out the variety of Help Skin Assistance products available on the webpage.

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    You can read more About Lili here and check out the variety of Help Skin Assistance products available on the webpage.

    we offer. The other Essentially Lili’s Blogs can also be found on our webpage or you can send an email to info@essentiallylili.com should you need further assistance.

    Always love to hear from you, Kind Regards Lili @ Essentially Lili

    Check out the Gallery of Pictures – Men’s Personal Grooming: Hydrating Face balm & Aftershave Serum, Sandalwood, Coloured Clays, Salts Scrub and Feet Treatment & Mint Body Butter

    Essential Oils Can Help With Stress

    Essential Oils Help Stress

    Essential Oils can Help With Stress

    Related symptoms with their amazing properties & benefits.

    Today our lives are becoming more stressful as we try to juggle the demands of our homes and work environments. Whether or not we have children added to the mix, if the home & work life is not balanced, the stress levels can overwhelm us.Whilst we may not notice at the beginning, the effects of stress will start to take its toll on our Holistic being: our body and health, our mind and spirit.

    Symptoms of stress can affect us in various ways.Some of us suffer from various kinds of Headaches or Migraines, whilst others could have stress related Digestive issues. Often our sleep is disrupted, making us irritable towards others. No-one wants to become a yukky version of themselves, especially towards our loved ones.Stress can make you feel frustrated, angry and sometimes like you have no control. Stress can cause us to have itchy skin, whilst in some cases, it can develop into more severe disorders like Eczema & Psoriasis.Let’s look into these with a little more detail:

    Headache can include Migraine, Tension, Sugar, or Sinus related thumping heads.
    Migraine headaches can be worsened when stressed, going through hormonal changes, suffering anxiety, or feeling deprived of sleep.These types of headaches can also make us feel nauseous.
    Tension headaches can be caused by stress, bad posture, eating irregularly, withdrawing from caffeine consumption, not sleeping well, straining your eyes from prolonged computer use or watching telly.
    Sugar headachescan commence when your blood sugars are too low.
    Sinus headaches can commence from the season changes, pollen, congestion, making us feel stuffy and weasy. Often the symptoms can be so awful that we cannot breathe, our eyes itch and face can swell from the discomfort.

    What I love about Essential Oils is that these concentrated natural blessings have so many amazing properties, and when used correctly, they can bring wonderful results.

    Essential oils like Rosemary, Peppermint, Eucalyptus, Chamomile, and Lavender are soothing, uplifting and provide relief for these kinds of Headaches. See more about the benefits of the Essential Oils on our Ingredientspage.As the blended concoction enters our blood stream, the Essential Oils which have anti-viral, antiseptic, sedative and anti-depressant properties can relieve and calm the systems.

    Blended with a carrier oil, they can be inhaled with a travel inhaler to help bring instant relief when the symptoms arise. Or they can be massaged to the chest, the temples of your head, back of your neck and tips of your nose for inhalation, or they can be added to a warm, relaxing bath to have a pampering spa session. Just be aware that some Essential Oils are unsuitable for Kids, Expecting, and Nursing Mums.

    Our Blissful Minds blend was made considering that kids can get headaches too. It consists of Jasmine, Lavender, Rosemary, Frankincense & Roman Chamomile in Apricot Oil, making this product suitable for kids and Mums as well as for the bath, providing relief all year round before the symptoms become too strong.

    For those who are getting headaches, fatigue and hot flushes due to the Menopausal stage of their lives, a stronger blend of Essential Oils called Changing Seasons has been made to assist. The Concentrated Serum can be used in the bath or directly onto the skin at various points, or the Inhaler can be kept in your bag to use when the symptoms arise.

    For Stress that affects our digestion, we need to ensure that we watch what we eat. Cut back on those foods that aggravate your system like chilies and spices, as well as foods that are high in sugars which can cause your gut to become sluggish. Drink plenty of water to help flush out your bodies. Marjoram Essential Oil is closely related to Oregano, which is a highly concentrated source that promotes bioactive compounds. It also helps keep your heart healthy.Other Essential Oils that can assist with a sluggish digestive system are Coriander, Ginger, Nutmeg and Tarragon. Blended with a Carrier oil, these can be applied to the tummy area to bring relief. Though eating fresh in a soup would not only be a delicious alternative, but it would bring quick relief to your digestion.

    Note: Only a Clinical Aromatherapist should be able to instruct ingesting Therapeutic Grade Essential Oils. Please seek a professional’s assistance if you choose to ingest Essential Oils.

    Stress affecting our sleep keeps our minds ticking all night, stopping us from getting the rest we need. Insomnia is when we find it hard to fall asleep, or we lay awake for too long. If this happens 3 nights per week, for 3 months or more, it would be considered as chronic. Whilst sleeping pills can be considered for a short-term solution, they can have other side effects over a longer period including feelings of drowsiness. Alternatively, natural sleep aids with little or no side effects would be better in the long run. Some of the symptoms for sleep deprivation include:

    • Finding it difficult to fall asleep when you lie down;
    • Being unable to stay asleep throughout the night;
    • Waking up too early and having trouble going back to sleep;
    • Feeling low in energy, tired or fatigued when you wake up;
    • Not feeling like you have had any rest when you get up;
    • Feeling irritable, aggressive or moody throughout the day;
    • Finding it hard to concentrate at work/school;
    • Your work/school relationships can become affected by feeling cranky and overtired.

    Essential Oils blended in a carrier oil can be used in the home with diffusers or Aromasticks to assist in making the mood more pleasant at home. Blending Lavender, Bergamot, Mandarin, Ylang Ylang are amongst those Essential Oils which can help your sleeping patterns with time. Using these in an Inhaler to reduce the Anxiety levels can also bring calmness to the mind when you are on the go.

    For more information about the Congestion & Sinuses products, we make Concentrated Serums which parents have been using in the bath to help their little ones with congestion and coughs. The carrier oil makes the products safe to use in the bath, which are Kids Breathe Easy Concentrate and Adults Breathe Easy Concentrate is the stronger blend with Peppermint & Vetiver. This has helped my husband snore less at night time when I have been able to place the concentrated serum on the tip of his nose which equals Happy Wife!

    The Pick Me Up (Adults & Kids) Anxiety Inhalers will be available on the webpage soon. The blend will help calm the nerves when feeling overwhelmed, anxious and stressed out.

    Lastly on the list is when Stress affects our skin. Our hormones can become imbalanced as the blood flow to our skin, hair, teeth and throughout the body can be somewhat hindered. A common reaction to stress is Eczema, Acne, Hives, Psoriasis, Rosacea, gum disease and hair loss. Being aware of when our body is not reacting well is key to getting back in control.A lot of times, controlling the foods we eat can affect our body’s recovery process.

    Essentials blended with Butters and Vegetable Oils that are rich in Vitamins and healing properties are a wonderful way to bring relief and restoration to skin that has been affected by stress.In our Skin Assistance category, we have a range of products suitable for Kids to Adults for Eczema, Dry Skin, Rosacea, Psoriasis (including the scalp). We have had some amazing Before & After results using the All-Natural Skincare products, which have been shared on the Reviews & Testimonials’.Some of our Happy Customers have been featured at the beginning of the Testimonials page, which is awesome. If you wish to be included, please send me a recent picture of yourself without makeup with your testimonial.

    You can also refer to the previous Blog: Understanding Your Body for the signs before they manifest in your body, as they will need a longer time period to resolve.

    Note: I will be working on making a Blend this year to aid digestion as well as a balm to help with menstrual pains.Let me know if these kinds of products would interest you.

    Should you want help to get the long term results you want, Book a Consult Therapist and check out the variety of Products online.

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    How has Stress affected you?
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    You can read more About Lili here, see the range of Products on offer at Shop Categories or refer to our Blog Library for more topics covered.

    Kind Regards Lili @ Essentially Lili

    Check out the Gallery of Pictures – How Essential Oils can help With Stress: Aromasticks, Ylang Ylang, Kids & Adults Breathe Easy, Herbs to Eat & Can Be Found as Essential Oils, Jasmine Flowers.